Wedding Planning with ADHD Wasn’t Designed for You—So I Designed Something That Was

This blog post is for the bride who’s trying to stay organized but keeps feeling overwhelmed.

Maybe you’ve bookmarked a dozen timelines.
Maybe you’ve printed the free checklist—and felt worse after looking at it.
Maybe you’ve thought, “Why can’t I just do this like everyone else?”

Whether or not you’ve ever been diagnosed with ADHD, if the checklist-first approach keeps leaving you anxious or stuck—this might be why.

If you’ve ever:

• Tried to use a wedding checklist and felt completely paralyzed…

• Filled a notebook with ideas—only to misplace it or forget what to do next…

• Started a planning timelinle and abandoned it three days later because it didn’t feel right…
  

This post is for you.

✔ You’re not behind.
✔ You’re not broken.
✔ You’re not failing.

You’re just trying to plan a wedding inside a system that probably wasn’t designed for your brain.

When you try to follow the Ultimate Wedding Checklist and suddenly you’re the project manager, emotional support hamster, and logistics team.

The Problem Isn’t You. It’s the Planning Environment.

I know. Because I've been there. I have ADHD, and I had to plan my second wedding almost entirely on my own.

When My fiancé said: 'this is your wedding—you get what you want!'

When I planned that wedding, I wasn’t overwhelmed by the choices—because I already knew what I wanted.

I’d spent years photographing weddings. I’d seen what worked… and what didn’t.
So when it was my turn, I didn’t start with a checklist—I started with a feeling.
I had a clear vision in my mind’s eye:
✔ A wedding that told our story.
✔ A wedding that reflected what marriage meant to us.
✔ A wedding that felt like us, not just a Pinterest board.

And that vision?
It led every decision I made—from the setting, to the style, to the invitations.

Later, when I discovered I had ADHD, it clicked.
Of course that process worked for me.
It wasn’t linear. It wasn’t rigid. I could grasp the whole picture instantly.
It was anchored in meaning—and that’s what my brain needed all along.
Because I can’t follow timelines or written instructions (doesn’t stop my trying, though, sadly! One day I might learn…)

That’s when I realized:
Maybe this method could help other brides, too.
Especially the ones who feel like they’re already falling behind before they even begin.

Because if you have ADHD too, those same traditional tools—timelines, spreadsheets, checklists—can start to feel like cages.

You’re not disorganized—you’re multi-dimensional.
Step-by-step sequences feel unnatural.
You don’t need more pressure—you need more vision.
More emotional anchors.

Another checklist? Another 50-tab night? You’re not failing—it’s just not built for you.

But what do we normally do when we want to start a project?

We reach out online, and thankfully there's so much out there now for ADHDers.

But then what happens?
✔ We bookmark the blog posts… and forget to read it.
✔ We download the checklist… and never look at it again.
✔ Even the ADHD-friendly tools? They can still feel overwhelming.

I’ve started to realize that most wedding planning tools just weren’t made for the way my brain works.
In fact, most online education—or just about anything now—just doesn’t work for my brain.
I need to create shortcuts, to cherry-pick information, and to come up with something myself, that works for me.
Maybe you’re the same way.

If this feels more stressful than helpful—you’re not alone. The Visionary Wedding™ begins in a completely different way.

These onlilne tools:
✔ They assume you’re linear.
✔ They assume you love lists.
✔ They assume that timelines = safety and that structure = progress.
✔ And sometimes they can feel pushy, not allowing you to go at your own pace, in a way that works for you.

But if you have ADHD too, those same tools start to feel like cages.
You’re not disorganized—you’re multi-dimensional.
You don’t need more pressure—you need more vision.

You’re trying to plan an emotionally significant, deeply personal event…
...using tools that prioritize order over essence.

And I feel like that’s why you feel disconnected.
That’s why you keep starting over.
That’s why everything feels harder than it should be.
And nothing feels right.
(And I already know—you're working ten times harder than anyone realizes.)

What if your wedding planning felt looked more like this—calm, connected, and created for your brain?

What You Might Really Need Is a New Environment

✔ One that honors your need for connection
✔ A space where design meets emotion—where what you can create actually means something
✔ A support system that works with brain, not against it
✔ A course that doesn’t overwhelm you—but gently guides you forward
✔ A quiet community (yes, even a Facebook group!) where your ideas feel safe and seen

This isn’t wedding planning the traditional way.
It’s a slower, softer way in—where clarity begins with who you are.

Your Vision Is the Framework

When you plan to a vision—your vision—you don’t need someone else’s checklist.

You don’t need a 12-month timeline.
You don’t need to tick every box on that "Ultimate Wedding Planning Guide."
You already know what matters.

When your vision is clear, you’ll know what needs to happen—and what can wait.
And if something doesn’t happen? That’s okay, too.

(Oh—and if, for example, you forget something on the day—like I did with the wedding cake—yes, really, I forgot the cake!—it’ll be fine. Because that just proves it wasn’t a priority for you in the first place.)

That’s the gift of a vision-driven plan.
It removes the panic.
It replaces shame with clarity.
It becomes your compass.

Your personal vision is your North Star.
It shows you what belongs, and what doesn’t.
It keeps you steady when the voices around you start saying, “Shouldn’t you also…?”

It also does something else:

It reveals the next right step—without needing to see the whole path.

Because the truth is, when you're connected to the emotional meaning behind your wedding, you don't have to micromanage every detail.
The next step just… shows up. And things just seem to ‘happen’ randomly—like when you’re walking past some shops and suddenly you see the perfect wedding shoes in the window—and they’re on sale! (True story, it happened to me.)

It’s not magic.
It’s just that your clarity begins doing the heavy lifting for you.

You’re not just planning a wedding.
You’re designing a vision to follow.
It’s not outcome-based. It’s Vision-First.

Let’s Design a Wedding That Begins With Vision

This is what I created because I didn’t need more structure—I needed clarity.
And now—it's here for you, too.

A course that doesn’t start with lists or timelines…
It starts with vision—yours.

A process that helps you discover what matters most—
and design your entire wedding around that truth.

A gentle space where your ideas feel safe, and your creativity has room to breathe.
A community that understands how your mind works—without trying to fix or force it.

Because when your vision is clear, the rest becomes easier.

You’re not behind. You’re not doing it wrong.
You just haven’t had a method that starts where you do—on the inside.

So let’s begin together.
Let’s uncover your vision.
And let’s design a wedding that actually feels like you.

Photo credit: Sarah Godenzi

Final Thoughts: When you get married, I want your heart to swell.

This isn’t just about planning your wedding—it’s about the beginning of the rest of your life, full of emotion, memory, and meaning. When you plan and design with intention, you wedding becomes more than just a beautiful day, a beautiful event, it becomes a defining moment of who you are, one that brings back every beautiful emotion of your wedding day for years to come.

Your wedding isn’t just about how it looks—it’s about how it feels. And your wedding planning should reflect that.

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It’s time to start planning from the place that matters most—your vision.